Certified Graphoanalyst and Author, David J. DeWitt: Shares an excerpt from his last Chapter 17 of his new book that’s still in progress: Handwriting Analysis: BULLYING – Dangerous Signs & Effects….
SOME FINAL THOUGHTS FOR YOU TO CONSIDER …
- First, hopefully this guide has been of help as an additional tool to guide you as parents, teachers and teenagers to uncover the principles that relate to teenager’s growth and what is normal behavior. As children approach early adolescence, this is a time of social, physical and emotional change, which can become challenging for you and your child. As a result, you both need all the help you can get. You need to be tuned in to what it’s like to be a teen in order help them through these normal emotional and physical changes. Young teens still need plenty of adult supervision, love and understanding. Also they need their space to develop self-respect, self-esteem, integrity, trust in order to promote open personal growth and a sense of fulfillment. “A positive win, win situation.”
- Second, by identifying the handwriting indicators shown in this book regarding bullying, and signs of victimization, it will help you to understand more about the child you are dealing with. Will it solve the problem of victimization due to bullying? Not likely, but the insight gained through handwriting analysis can help provide a plan of action by cutting through the layers of denial shown from a child’s handwriting.
- Third, remember you could make a difference by bringing the problem of bullying out into the open by speaking to the authorities. Also, consider suggestions from other experts, such as guidance counselor, your school psychologist, your teachers, etc
- Fourth, it is important to become aware of the current rules regarding bullying and the school policy.
- Fifth, connect with other parents, go to school meetings and support rules or initiate programs against bullying in the school. Getting to know other parents and guardians can help you keep closer tabs on your child. You’re most likely to find out that you’re not the only parent who wants to prevent bullying and shares the same concern.
- Sixth, parents and guardians set a good example by being a role model to your child. Studies indicate that parents who are bullies and aggressive, his or her children are more likely to follow suite. It is important to teach your child early on about harassing others and the severity of it. Help your child build healthy relationships. If your child’s friends are bullies, your child is more likely to be a bully too. A good start is to simply get to know your son or daughter’s friends better. You can then invite the children you feel comfortable with to your family get-togethers and outings, plus encourage your child to spend time with them. Also, discuss with your child about the qualities in a good friendship that are long lasting and important, such as trustworthiness, honesty and sincerity as shown in Chapter 15, rather than popularity.